Three years ago, I was an entrepreneur coach and consultant who thought I knew myself. I was slowly burning out while brainstorming my next business idea with a friend. I was unaware of my capacity to mask pain and over-function as an escape route to avoid pain and unease within me.
Two years ago, I was totally fried. The worst business partner ever, an overly dependent wife, firing myself from most of my work, leaning too hard on friendships, and barely able to get out of bed. I was thinking I was working too much, but that was the result, not the root of the problem.
One year ago, I was uncovering childhood wounds and healing with three different methods of therapeutic help. Prayer ministry that was generously available to sooth and bring me into a spiritual hug, unconditional love, lots of Holy Spirit soaking moments (thank you Steven). Then there were the Life Model Mamas who took me into a joy and Jesus centered method called the Life Model where I continued to heal and recover (thank you Mamas). Then I was brought into my body to work on the trauma still tethered inside to completely clear it from my system (thank you Shauna and the Clearing Method). I also had friends in my corner buoying me up on my worst days (thank you Simona and Betsy for your crisis intervention lunch, and grace)
And today…
I’m still an entrepreneur coach and consultant, but the most resourced and supported one on the planet! I’ve got a coach supervisor, a coach mentor, a therapist, a therapy mentor, monthly (when possible) meetups with the Mamas for mutual support, wise friends who can laugh and be at ease as friends (not having to deal with my crises every time we meet). Thank you, friends! I am unashamedly the most supported coach I’ve ever met. That’s me, my current claim to fame.
What’s my point?
I didn’t have the professional support because I didn’t think I needed it. But I did. And I still do. And now I am buoyed up like never before. Actually, no buoy needed. I’m up on my own paddle board!
I have no idea where you are on this journey and what kind of support you may need. But it’s worth a ponder, in my opinion.
I think I can hear you saying, “but I don’t have that kind of money”. I get that piece too, but here’s the thing. Put your creative problem-solving hat on. What is right in front of you?
Example…
I trade services with my mentor coach, and my supervisor coach charges a generously low fee as she practices her supervisory skills, I have friendships that can muscle the weight of trading off deep sharing, even over Marco Polo! I find free or low-cost resources online. There are creative ways to figure this out…if you really want to. But you might have to ask. And you likely have more to offer someone else than you realize.
Start small, take a mini step in the direction of true support, whatever that may be. Even if what you have is a soothing song list and a journal. It’s free and maybe the best place to start. Create a sacred space and a time that works for you (even if it means you go to bed early) to meet yourself, turn inward with breath and presence, asking, what do you feel, and what do you need? What is your request?
Don’t ignore yourself and your needs for too long!
It almost did me in.
Armandee
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